We’ve
been providing a lot of peer mentoring for
Consumers who have been overwhelmed by grief and
are having pessimistic thoughts plague their
lives. Thus, we compiled the following list of
tips to help them cope with the adversity they
face.
The
power of positive thinking
is immense, the value of a positive mental attitude is
priceless. It is a value everyone must have. It is
the prelude to success,
within and without.
To
cultivate a habit of positive thinking with chains
of less than perfect habits and thinking that we have picked
up in the course of our lives, is an art that has
to be acquired. Here are
10 tips for positive
thinking and practical
steps that enable positive thinking to be indelibly part of your
life, that will leave living richer fuller and
happier.
1.
Learn. Read. Listen. Daily. To inspiring thoughts,
audios, movies, battles conquered, adventures
encountered, obstacles overcome. There are
people who have distilled blood, sweat and tears
of wisdom into books, tapes and courses.
It is said that you become what you think
about all day. Learn from and model. Associate
yourself with people who think positively.
2.
Optimism. Psychologist Martin Seligman mentions
that those who are optimistic do not think like
pessimists who tend to see problems as permanent,
pervasive and personal. Rather than saying " I'm
doomed", "Everything's finished." "I'm no
good" Optimists see a way out, they confine the
problem and do not take it personally. They do not
indulge in catastrophic thinking. The glass if
half full. There will be better days. Belief and
hope is half the battle won.
3.
Gratitude – whatever happens, there are worse
situations. if you are breathing, be glad to be
alive. If you have lost all possessions, be glad
you have something to wear. There is always
something to be grateful for. Gratitude unlocks
beauty, calms and expands the mind. Gratitude
gives joy. And has benefits beyond what you can
see- physiological, mental,
psychological, spiritual, and even
social. Be grateful. And blessed.
4.
Taking responsibility instead of blame. You will
be able to take locus and control of your life
again. The storms may rage around you. but you are
responsible for getting out of it. You will swim
out no matter what . you don't wait for the rain
to stop before you move. You don't wait for the
other person to react before you make the first
move.
5. Not
allowing negative emotions to overwhelm you. You
may have been beaten sore. But there is still
breath in you enough to fight another day. The
world may have been unfair, but you are only going
to cry in your closet for only a little while. It
may be a blessings in disguise. Every experience
learned will lead more wisdom in the next, Every
adversity has the seed of a greater benefit. You
will be surprised sometimes things that seem
adversities turn out to be opportunities in
disguise
6.
Persistence. Push. Beyond The Dip. Seth Godin
explains that most people do not achieve what they
want is because they give up before they cross The
Dip. What is The Dip? It is the 10th job interview
where they never even fall you back. It is the
100th time you fall on your butt while learning to
snowboard. It is any rough patch you have to get
through before achieving your big goal. Success is
only a step away. Or maybe a few more steps. Never
give up. Don't quit. Ask. And you will
receive.
7.
Believe- even if everything tells you
otherwise. In your gut feeling. That there can be
miracles. That things can be changed. Expectancy.
Belief in yourself. In better days. In hope. In
goodness. Trust in God to take you through.
8.
Seek divine guidance. When you are overwhelmed.
When bad things happen to good people like
yourself. When you are stuck and find no way out.
Or even before the start of an ordinary day. Og
Mandino, in his book The Greatest Salesman in the
World mentions: " I will pray.. in this manner: Oh
Creator of all things, help me….for this day I go
out into the world naked and alone, and
without your hand to guide me, I will wander
far from the path that leads to success and
happiness. .… teach me how to hunt with words and
prosper with love… Discipline me in the habit of
trying and trying again.. bathe me in good habits
that the bad ones may drown; yet grant me
compassion for weaknesses in other. Suffer me to
know that all things shall pass; yet help me count
my blessings of today. Let me become all you
planned for me when my seed was planted and
selected by you to sprout in the vineyard of the
world…"
8.
Keep the big picture in mind. Distractions,
pettiness, they can irritate you for the moment.
Never lose sight of what you are here for and keep
your eyes on your vision and goal. You can revise
them now and again if you find it is not really.
And if you really When you steer a ship, you
look at a far point, not the waves in front of
you. Search within. Follow your compass and stick
to it.
9.Accepting
your lot when you have to, while sticking to your
dreams of better things to come. Adapting while
being content in the midst of situations. Remember
the serenity prayer- teach me to accept things
that cannot be changed and change what you can,
and knowing how to distinguish the two. There is a
time for everything, and perhaps it is the time to
wait and be patient. A time to reflect, change.
Humility. Emptiness. Mourning. There is a time and
place for this. It is refreshing time, an
important time. Treasure it.
10.
Bringing joy and hope in the lives of others.
Adding value. Touching lives. After all, dreams
for yourself, and self glory end in hollow
emptiness at the end. The most meaningful moments
are those when lives are touched, legacy left,
personal battles won. We exist for each other.
Meaningful moments often involve people- touching
people, touching lives.
In
short, positive thinking is more than looking at
the bright side.
It is
an entire lifestyle of thinking rightly, which
will leave you more fulfilled, happy and satisfied
than ever before.
